When our daughter was invited to a "kick back", I had no clue as to what that really was. I assumed it was simply a gathering of friends at someone's house. You know...kick back, watch tv, play video games, eat some junk food. I was then informed that this kick back may involve alcohol. To be a little more specific...Beer Pong. I didn't say anything,(although I wanted to) but waited a moment before asking "So... what are you going to do?" She gave me the answer that I had hoped for. She didn't want to go because she doesn't drink and would feel out of place. Whew! That was easy.. Some of you reading this must think I live in a cave, but really, I don't. It's just that my girl has grown up and made NEW friends through work and school that I have not personally met. The friends I knew from her High School days, were pretty straight lace. They grow into adults so quickly!
The following week she gets another invite to a different "kick back" but this one is called 420-Friendly. My first thought? 420 Friends? Okay....so enlighten me or do I have to look it up on the Urban Dictionary? She explains that there will be smoking taking place, and I am not talking about the tobacco variety. She then announced, "I don't really want to go." So that's why I am feeling just a bit proud of my grown up girl who is still 8 months away from turning the big 20. She can make up her own mind, without a parent telling her what the right choice would be. She knows what it is. I don't live in fairytale land and don't expect that she will never make a wrong decision in life or attend a party without drugs & alcohol, but I know she will reflect back on these decisions and know in her heart what's right for her, personally.